Thursday, December 31, 2009

Programmed Children!!!

Parents work hard their entire life for their children to have a good life. Children in turn must respect the sacrifices of their parents & take care of them. There is no arguing about this. But what I find astounding is that certain parents view their children as a computer program. They can enter all the personality traits in the program & get the appropriate type of child they want!!! That is what I am aginst in this post.

It is the duty of children to respect their parents & work hard in their lives in order to make their parents proud. But when parents impose on their children to have a certain type of personality, this issue gets complicated. A child must have the freedom to decide the type of clothes he wants to wear, the kind of hair style he wants, the music he wants to listen, the movies he wants to watch, the places to visit, the career he wants to persue, the person he wants to marry etc. All such things should be left to the person himself. Where parents try to work on external features of their child's personality, it is the inside that gets neglected. Parents should give priority to developing their child into a good human being & then just let him be what he wants to be. Too many times have I heard parents criticize their children's dress code, their hair & their likes & dislikes in general. Parents must learn how to give their children a certain pat on the back.

Children on the other hand must understand reponsibility. Freedom without responsibility is useless. PArents SHould give their children a free reign to do what they want to. But children must listen to their parent's advice. They must pay for the consequences of any bad choice they make on their own. Chuildren who demand freedom but come crying back to their parents if something goes wromg don't deserve freedom. Freedom with responsibility is my point here!!!!!

Friday, December 18, 2009

The Unique Self!!!

Strange thing this. Most people try to stand out. To appear different. To find a uniqueness about themselves. Most of us try to do this consciously. But in doing so, we create a false version of our self, one after the other. We make ourselves unique just by importing a few traits from other personalities. In a way, we lie to ourselves & become something we actually are not.

the best way to be unique is to find your true self. To explore your inner self instead of forcing certain traits into your personality just for the sake of being different. But finding your true self & then being comfortable with it is not easy. One has to get rid of his/her complexes in order to do that. One has to be brvae enough to exhibit his/her true self to the world as well. One thing to keep in mind is that in exporing your unique self, you cannot affect others in an adverse manner.

This aspect is significant because of the fact that many poeple confuse themsleves by adding things to their personalities just because that is what they see aroun them. Many consciously do different & strabge things just to stand out. Many have no idea about their true self but insist on leeting others know how diferent they are jsut to please their ego. many know their unique self & their true path but decline to exhibit it in fornt the world & create a different verison of themselves for the outer world to the one they know they really are. All such conflicts give rise to a confused society & in our case, a confued nation.

Tuesday, December 8, 2009

Strong Voices!!!

Music most certainally has a life of its own. It inevtiably seeps into your soul. Our region of the world has been fortunaate enough to be blessed with a rich array of sufi music. We all know about the 'kallam' of peple like Baba Bulley Shah, baba Ghulaam Fareed, Shah Abdul Latif Bhatai, Allama Iqbaal, Faiz etc. But there have also been a few very inspiring voices that have sung this kalaam in a heavenly manner. Nusrat Fateh Ali Khan, Abida Parveen, Reshma, Rahat Fateh Ali Khan, Sayeen Zahoor, Masooma Anwar, Javed Bashir etc.

There is something outworldly about these voices. In a dark isolated corner, you can listen to them & feel a connection. There most certainally is a soothing effect. Their beauty is that they even make melancholy feel peaceful. Most of us, no matter what our materialistic ambitions are, long for some time away from the hassle of this world. This is where these voices come into play. Unless you consciously try not to like them, these voices certainally have a universal appeal.

The point I wanted to make here is that there are many ways to finidng inner peace & this is one of them. But you have to listen to these voices with hoinesty. If you don't desire inner peace, you would not feel anything at all. We can feel if we want to feel. And for those who do, they would know what I am talking about. Sufi musiic in these strong voices is one of the 'chaalu qalbz'